Relationship Power at work
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THE work you want to do again

Great work is often rewarded with great work.

What do you want to become better at and for whom?

Whats a position you would feel its a luxury to serve WHOM from?

Dont make it about waiting for perfect.
Make it about progress - however tiny that might feel.

Dont make it about you.
Make it about those you're helping

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Relate to each other, asking ourselves how we RELATE not how we differ, judge or oversimplify into polarized either or.
everything is a projection. everything is a reflection of us.

Dont blame others, systems and subsystems. Own your intent, effort and behaviour.

Currently around you its a lot of focus on being divided,
bad at listening,
more judgmental. We fool ourselves that its either or/black or white

if I'm right you must be wrong: no grayscale

Our axis never align perfectly, we can still be both mostly right
learn the hard soft skills, everything else will get automated.

scripts ignore all sunk costs


instead train on:
* give and receive feedback
* having difficult conversations
* training in one area might transfer to all areas
* Relate to each other, and teaching others how they benefit from that focus as well* helping others on their journey towards their destination, and seeing overlaps and when it's time to let go


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Humble is not thinking less of yourself,
it's thinking of yourself less.

Be the hardest working in the room, not the loudest

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OK to fumble while learning just intentionally keep practice and evaluate for those you care about

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Living in Replay Simulation Mode,
What is Normal,
Intentionally Act Now

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Here's the video version of this audio for those interested

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Do you actively, regularly help others feel like they belong?

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Why Machine, Deep learning & AI speeds up the hatchet of change so much - and why I think it matter to every relationship you have

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Are you aware of the results of your intentions and actions?

We dont know the intent behind an outcome, but imagine a positive intent from others helps build relationships.

Likewise setting healthy boundaries also helps build relationships

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What work are you doing that feels so important you just HAVE to do it (for others benefit)? Why is that so?

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BetterBias, UpperLimit Belief & Risks – Please just start already



Books mentioned in this episode

The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level

Factfulness: Ten Reasons We're Wrong About the World--and Why Things Are Better Than You Think


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Your Story and Talking To Strangers

I’m currently in Seth Godin’s beta program of Storytelling and reflect out loud on the combination of that and the book I’m currently listening to (that was released today so I’m just partly done listening to it)

Book: Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know about the People We Don’t Know 2

Course: Story Skills Workshop

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On Trust

Reach and information is not enough


is never about what you say

its about what people do


do they trust what you see and bring to their table?

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Please dont wait

Please listen to the resistance, and the feelings that get in the way for teaching others what you know - then find a way to do it anyway.

Also remind yourself of others calendar-time.

often we intend to give generously but time catches up with us and without intending to we could have given no help + time to people instead of sending them early and with faults, we hoped to fix it before sending them yet other priorities got in the way and we're still sending them as it was before anyway.

Dare to share and teach earlier, faster, more often.

You already know enough to give. today. Again and again.

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Experimenting with things that might work but are not guaranteed to work takes a lot of emotional work. Separating the work from our self-identity. Allowing our “self-esteem” the hit of failure, when we all wish to make it.
You’ll never learn anything new properly if you’re not open to be vulnerable in your self-esteem.
If you can remove shame from not making things work the first time you try it you’ve come a LOT way to propel your work forward. Its hard work for all of us but well worth it.
What WOULD you bring our world if there was NO shame in trying?

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I've spoken about Digital Twins multiple times over the years but it’s worth a reminder on how it will affect your relationships and effectiveness


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ARE you generous towards yourself?
so you'll know how to give better to those you care about?

if we're not starting with also being generous to ourselves,
its easy to fool ourselves what better looks like

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Do you know your Oasis?

Do you know where you regenerate?

Where you get energy, insight and encouragement from?

Its more often a WHO than a place.

Are you investing energy finding people who get you,

Or investing energy adapting to people who don’t?


Only YOU know "your" place

Dont let anyone else tell you otherwise

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Status affect way more than it perhaps should.

Accepting reality is the first step in changing it

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Dont wait for mentoring.

Dont wait to be picked.

Dont wait to recieve that special anything.

Instead work hard to position yourself AND thus making it more likely to have someone wanting to mentor you, to make yourself ready IF you get picked.


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Do things that matter today, so you’ll learn.

Don’t waste time comparing – remind yourself it’s the learning and doing that’s important and comparing often gets in the way more than we ever learn.

This is urgent. Do thinks every day that matters, however small. That consistency will what makes you win whenever you need to win way more likely than watching others.

Culture is just behaviour. Effect is just a result of behaviour.

Are you focused on your own behaviour and that of those around you? without this it doesnt matter what your powerpoint slides say your people "should" do in a fancy greatlooking strategy document.

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What does Resilience mean to you?

What does it enable?

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Are you doing the work that matters?

Or are you just doing hard work because you "hope" if its hard, it should be rewarded?

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Just some food for thought on the URGENT need for you to think about restorability so backups don’t get in the way of your relationships.

* Divorce and family photos?

* Employee and boss asks for phone back?

* Programmer backup = 100x speed and trust

Trust? Are your provider doing analytics on your backups?

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Who controls the data for your emotional choices?
Know thyself is more urgent than ever!

We’re all emotional creatures – a great important part of our evolution.
It’s important to know that you’re now surrounded by algorithms watching you and tweaking the environment around you constantly. For both great and scary effects.

That’s why it’s more important than ever to know thyself, to understand what makes you tick so you’ll recognize what’s going on. Say when you think you’re reading news and in effect, you’re being manipulated to make a certain decision.


Why fascism is so tempting — and how your data could power it  Yuval Noah Harari | TED2018

Facebook's role in Brexit — and the threat to democracy |Carole Cadwalladr | TED2019

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This is Marketing worth the listen or read from so many angles

This episode is a tribute to Seth Godin, and a recommendation of his book This Is Marketing: You Can't Be Seen Until You Learn to See

IF you only read one book this year I recommend you make it this one before others.

It applies to so much beyond marketing.

Ric share’s some of his thoughts on Seth Quotes

  • My product is for people who believe ...
  • I will focus on people who want...
  • I promise that engaging with what I make will help you get...


You’re listening to episode 365 of this podcast, and I’ve shipped it weekly for 5 years to get to this point in time.
I surely was a slow learner facing so many resistances getting here. I still struggle with some of them and most likely will find new resistances as I keep leveling up.

Without Seth and all I’ve learned from Seth over the years about [daring] to dance with tension and [daring] to do the work that matter this podcast wouldn’t exist. Seth is the number ONE reason I’m doing this for you and everyone else listening to this.
Thank you Seth!

This Is Marketing: You Can't Be Seen Until You Learn to See
IF you’re curious I recommend you get the audio version because Seth is taking time to read it himself

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Brand, Reputation and DOING the work that matters.

I know I here talk about how important DOING things is – to get real life feedback, to connect, to learn.
Getting our ideas out of our heads to meet the world so we connect with our community, so we show up for those we seek to help. But it’s even more important to embrace that it’s not enough to just do better work. We must all of us also embrace branding, reputation and all the work that makes OUR work matter, be noticed and feel relevant for those we want to help.
With all the noise in our world just being the best, or having shipped the best product is not enough.
We must all work on our brand. That the result of that work is NOT up to us. Branding in today’s connected world: For both global around the world brands, as well as your personal brand is:
Other people's expectation of you. The promise you deliver to them. THAT is your brand.
its easy to live in the illusion that they'll get it eventually, if we just do good work.
That they will come if we just build "the right <insert your product>" but it’s not enough.

My experience is that in order for your people to get the maximum value out of your product or “value”
They must get the reputation your brand bring with it from others, not directly from you.

The noise blocks out who's the best.
Seek to be the best for those you serve including do work on marketing, branding, reputation in a way that matter to them.

Don’t seek to gamify what ‘ever platform you're on.
Eventually algorithms will learn and you're community as well. You don’t want to be left obsolete just because an algorithm was updated.

quote: Warren Buffet
It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you'll do things differently
What’s your legacy? What are you building for those you serve beyond you?
What is the promise you bring those that connect with what you do?

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