You matter. You Belong. Be[come] Remarkable It’s up to you to think thru WHO you want to belong with. Not making that choice will make you belong somewhere, regardless. Others depend on you making a choice that matters for both of you. Sometimes it helps us to make that choice by using another work. Being … Continue reading You matter You belong. Be Remarkable →

Inciting Action is often better than all the data and insights in the world For perhaps 20 years I was fooled by the lure of big data, business intelligence and ”forknowing” stuff. What I learned, eventually, however slow I was is that although insight is important. And data is important, especially in our current, algorithm … Continue reading Inciting Action is often better than all the data and insights in the world →

Options and being comfortable now versus a better state later Options. We all want Options. Often one of the best ways of ensuring we keep having the best options making a choice of not allowing to many options when doing the work that matters. Embracing some discomfort now that we’re very comfortable and don’t “need” … Continue reading Options and being comfortable now versus a better state later →

continuing the talk on Infinite and finite games. game Windows and the dont wait game.   If its a stupid game stop playing it. ignore sunk cost. doesnt matter how long you’ve been playing it. The ONE thinh that matters is it giving you what you want?

Level up your infinite game with your finite games Some of my ramblings on what is an infinite game and why should you care. What I think is not relevant and doent matter. What matters is what you think, and if this mindset change your behaviour? Some examples of the difference mindset of an infinite … Continue reading Level up your infinite game with your finite games →

Discomfort precede change I struggle alot  with sounding “Energetic” in my voice on my podcast. This episode contains some thoughts around the discomfort that always precedes change. Because change doesn’t happen without discomfort. If that would be the case you’d be there already. What discomfort do you struggle with that is worth it for the … Continue reading Discomfort precede →

Who would miss the work you put at their table? Infinite and finite games Who would miss what that you put on their table, in your unique way, your style, your methods? Who would miss you if you were gone? What game are you playing and why? I hope you’ve got to celebrate a great … Continue reading Who would miss the work you put at their table? Infinite and finite games →

Treat everyone you meet as a volunteer “Accept the fact that you need to treat everyone like a volunteer”. Is a quote by Peter Drucker ..if you want to help THEM, thus you, discover and unleash THEIR potential. You cant fully control that process. But you can encourage it. You can direct the energy and … Continue reading Treat everyone you meet as a volunteer →

3 games that matter 3 seats of power   3 Games that matter inner game: the why you play, the words you use in your head. outer game: current game/result you bring others infinite game:   3 seats of power  relationship power knowledge power authority/role power Your Chosen Position And the position from where you … Continue reading 3 games, 3 seats of power →

Are you ready? .. for opportunity when it comes knocking on YOUR door? I surely wasn’t, for most of the times when it’s been past my door. LINK For example when I was interviewed by John on his EOfire podcast. Having then more than a million downloads that scared me into doing nothing more than … Continue reading Are you ready? →

Learn more – know less   It isn’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble, its what you know for sure, that just aint so Quote Mark Twain   Its important to focus on the learning part of ourself. Niches come and go. Business come and are great at first but most markets … Continue reading Learn more – know less →

Dare to ask questions. Dare to question your own worldview. Dare to help others see what you see, still respecting their perspective. Dare to speak out loud to a friend why you might be wrong. Dare to help others by showing your vulnerability in what you know and what you don’t. There is power in … Continue reading Dare to ask questions. Dare to question your own worldview. Dare to help others see what you see →

What if you behaved like your manager, client or customer payed you double for your results? Your ability to ask yourself the important questions determines more than you think. Treat your clients, customers, managers like they pay you a lot more than you do. How would you behave differently if that was the case? What’s … Continue reading Behave like your manager, client or customer pay you double for your result →

Borrowing Happiness from tomorrow. Making the best of today to enjoy both now and tomorrow Uncomfortable now rather than resentful later – by Brene brown Don’t shrink, don’t Puff. Brave and vulnerable at the same time. Healthy Boundaries When was the last time you choose to set a boundary by choosing to be uncomfortable now … Continue reading Borrowing Happiness from tomorrow →

Eye of the Beholder Your life is how you perceive it, not how you see it Everything is a projection. Both from you onto others, and others onto you. Like Einstein said “Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts” We’re all biased. Own that when you communicate. … Continue reading Eye of the Beholder →

Owning your Strength i talk some about one worldview of “owning your strength” What is yours? and how do you embrace that worldview?   This episode is very different. This is because I took a course last week called VideoLabs over at VideoCreators.com So today’s episode will actually be the audio-version my videos on YouTube … Continue reading Owning your Strength →

Lending some introduction and creating passion examples from the Computer Game world. For example perhaps you want to introduce your spouse to computer game play? It’s a lot of the same synergies you want when introducing someone to your office. You want to connect to what matters to them to create passion, commitment and understanding … Continue reading Introduction to ComputerGames or new recruit at office →

The Magic of Delegating Better Save time and build peoples potential at the same time? Build relationships and get better results at the same time? Does this sound too good to be true? Try it and you’ll see for yourself. The only thing is. You won’t get a perfect alignment with things you delegate. You … Continue reading The Magic of Delegating Better →

State of Play: Focus on the relationships that matter Play is often used for doing better work, getting better revenue with innovative new ideas. Play is also often used to build teams, develop trust and enhancing effective behaviour. Its also very powerful when used at home, to deepen the relationship with those that matter the … Continue reading State of Play: Focus on the relationships that matter →

One Focus Work on one project at a time. its the kind AND focused way towards accomplishing greatness What are you working on that’s got you most fired up? Questions like that I ask all the time. A trend I notice among my most successful friends is they rarely list a bunch of “I want … Continue reading One Focus →

Sleep affects the results of most things. Yet it’s so easy to keep pushing investing in it forward. If you’re lucky to have a few days of vacation right now. Don’t trade your chance for some extra sleep away for all the attention seeking platforms out there. Instead of sitting up following a trail of … Continue reading Invest in your sleep – investing in better results, connections & empathy →

Time with your most important people.. and what story the data tells Blissful time with your most important people? Check your stats and think again.. Christmas is coming up. Remind yourself to be there slightly more than usual for those you care about. Be mindful, present and let a few of those noises rest until … Continue reading Time with your most important people.. and what story the data tells →

Exceptions to the rule. Dangers and inspiration Beware there be dragons here. Exceptions to the rule. Something we often long to become. Personally. While I deep to my core help people consistently grow their potential, by stretching all they are right now I still believe the media bombardments of “Exceptions to the rule” is the … Continue reading Exceptions to the rule. Dangers and inspiration →

Asking Right – a few thoughts on how to ask questions: For advice or anything else. We are living in wonderful times. It’s easier than ever to connect with people around the globe getting help and advice. I believe must of us humans’ wants to help. IF everything else is equal we will do the … Continue reading Asking Right →

Your Attention in the modern age and how it affects your relationships and everything Are you in control of your attention investments? I think not, I sure know I am struggling with the modern noise out there. Right now there is a near infinite set of algorithms out there working to seer you away from … Continue reading Your Attention in the modern age and how it affects your relationships and everything →

Your Compass and your Map-Making skills, your maps Legends and your ability to share Vision of what may be Are you trying to follow a map when really need your compass more because the map is outdated?   Are you daring to put a flag down helping others get there safely, within budget and time? … Continue reading Your Compass and your Map-Making skills, your maps Legends and your ability to share Vision of what may be →

Clarity, Clarity, Clarity – only then communicate Think “What is it for?” “WHO is this for?” Before you speak, before you plan, before you execute. For example, when talking in order to get things to happen: Own the emotions Own your body language Own your words Own your results its your responsibility if you keep … Continue reading Clarity, Clarity, Clarity – only then communicate →

What’s YOUR style of play? This is not a quickfix/howto podcast harvesting on fear of loss, need for guarantees or checklist.   When I was a young leader of my first team I was desperately longing for a quick checklist to follow. Something that could guarantee if I followed its guidance I’d be great manager … Continue reading What’s YOUR style of play? This is not a quickfix/howto podcast harvesting on fear of loss, need for guarantees or checklist. →

The gap between ambition and effort-level. If there is a gap they become disconnected and thus not feeding each other energy. This can sound something along these lines, but I’m sure you have heard countless others just like it. “I want to be a star at X, I’m just waiting for the next idol program … Continue reading The gap between ambition and effort-level →

Choosing Your Manager, Clients, Students, Customers – basically who you want to serve and why I tap again on the theme, you are the company you choose. And I want to highlight “your manager.” Who are the people you’re serving? If you are going to ask yourself right now, is he or she helping you … Continue reading Choosing Your Manager, Clients, Students, Customers – basically who you want to serve and why →

Your time mostly comes from your actions You are your own source more than anyone else. Don’t blame others for where you are. Step up to the responsibility of being you, or at least closer to it right now.   You become the company you keep. Ask yourself. Those you invest most time with do … Continue reading Your time mostly comes from your actions →

Bimodal organisation Development & Digital Transformation still require a People First mindset  How BiModal are your organisation percentage wise? How much do you “experiment” to learn a better new normal? How well do you know your people so you know who wants to embrace the mode 1 or our organisation and the mode 2. You … Continue reading Bimodal organisation Development & Digital Transformation still require a People First mindset →

Deflecting – Connect or Disconnect, dont deflect Some thoughts on inner and outer deflections and what this does to your ability to connect. Acknowledge the beam of positive energy sent to you. Dare to look into the face of your scary monsters, doubt or shame and you’ll find new ways to get the important job … Continue reading Deflecting – Connect or Disconnect, dont deflect →

This is just an extra episode celebrating International Podcast Day You’re listening to the 185th episode of Relationship Power at work. I started podcasting 4 years ago. Please check out the live celebration here. I hope you find another podcast that helps you even more in your daily life.   https://internationalpodcastday.com

Digital Transformation, Operational BI and the importance of infrastructure and well oiled listening processes   Now is the time to really thank the heroes at infrastructure for their hard work, because it’s about to pay off when all organisations starts to realize “information is their most valuable asset” alongside with the digital transformation required to … Continue reading Digital Transformation, Operational BI and the importance of infrastructure and well oiled listening processes →

A tribute to Seth Godin’s altMBA Some thoughts its lasting effects now two years after attending Mars 2016 I completed Seth Godin’s alltMBA, it was the 4th time Seth held it. I’ve learned, applied and had great success with Seth’s advices over the years so joining was an easy choice, even if the course was … Continue reading A tribute to Seth Godin’s altMBA →

Train your imagination – What you are unaware of controls your options I’d claim your most important thing is your imagination, combined with your focused attention and execution How often do you explore “what may be”? Are you executing on your ideas? Like Tony Robbins say “stay in your head and you’re dead” You can’t … Continue reading Train your imagination – What you are unaware of controls your options →

The Purpose of Analytics is Change. Listen to the 4+Arrows within every dot on every graph The Purpose of Analytics is Change. It’s not enough to become aware. It’s not enough to sit on the IT side of this only, you need to help to make it happen. It’s not enough to predict the optimal … Continue reading The Purpose of Analytics is Change. Listen to the 4+Arrows within every dot on every graph →

Analytics & algorithms – enhancing beyond your own direct experience Can you Trust your own direct experience as an answer for the future? You can’t trust algorithms blindly, yet you’re unaware of how they’re used EVERYWHERE in ways that affect you way more than you know. Yet often some KPI’s become so important and untouchable, … Continue reading Analytics & algorithms – enhancing beyond your own direct experience →

Come Storms, Ebb, Tide and high water – I will be here lighting your path toward this position Sometimes metaphors gets a picture in our head that is so energizing we just have to act on it. In this episode I talk about the waves of time in your life. How we all encounter high … Continue reading Come Storms, Ebb, Tide and high water – I will be here lighting your path toward this position →

Embrace your draft: responsibly & publicly Dont hide behind a draft, make it real. Dont hide behind perfect, share your draft. Ship something today that will help someone else. This episode is actually two episodes. One the one listed here, and behind it, after it. The one I recorded first, then felt was not worthy … Continue reading Embrace your draft: responsibly & publicly →

Effects of having a contingency plan BEFORE you need it What’s a contingency plan for you? For me it’s all about maintaining the ability to execute effectively. Its easy to get lost in agreements, SLA:s, technology or just the mental idea confusing “keeping busy” with what is actually generating results. When you are starting business … Continue reading Effects of having a contingency plan BEFORE you need it →

Encourage, Encourage, Encourage – don’t punish instead be clear and positive about the future Encouragement is mightier than compliance long-term. Try to catch yourself whenever you get carried away in frustration, or anger this is just your short-term behaviour that most often will hurt the long term potential. The alternative cost of you venting your … Continue reading Encourage, Encourage, Encourage – don’t punish instead be clear and positive about the future →

Exponential results ways to get that 1% behavior that yields 99% of your result Seneca said “Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity” – Are YOU ready for opportunity with 99 times your current results AND saving your most scarce resourse, time, while embracing it? Does Routine Really Help Us Get to Our Goals? … Continue reading Exponential results – ways to get that 1% behavior that yields 99% of your result →

Seeing things from others, zoomed-out perspective. Clients perspectives, your customers perspective and your own perspective.   Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.  Quote Albert Einstein We often get so entangled with the people around us that we sometimes forget  that no-one else ever align with us … Continue reading Seeing things from others, zoomed-out perspective. →

Doves & Hawks, Relationship Power and the Fast, Connected Economy or the Curves of Evolution in the Fast Instant Access Connected Economy   Doves and hawks are both adorable species. And we can learn from them as well especially for the early managers. What would you like to become? A hawk? Or a dove? Why … Continue reading Doves & Hawks, Relationship Power and the Fast, Connected Economy →

Know your people – and some thoughts on KPIs, metrics and measurements ..or Key Metrics Performance Indicators when the order to “Round Down Cost” inevitably comes This is a managers’s guide on leveraging key metrics on getting to know their people effective behaviour better. This will also help you improve your relationship at work by … Continue reading Know your people – and some thoughts on KPIs, metrics and measurements →

Behaviour Follows Assumptions – You become the company you keep The power of the group you surround yourself with are strong. Imagine positive intent. Do you surround yourself with people who imagine the positive intent of others? I’m asking yourself right now – who comes to mind that does that? Do you draw blank? Does … Continue reading Behaviour Follows Assumptions – You become the company you keep →

How to Create a Deeper Relationship with Your Online Audience with Cliff Ravenscraft “We have the power within ourselves to literally change the world.” – Cliff In this episode, we will learn about how to create a powerful and positive impact to your online audience. Cliff will talk about how to deepen your relationship with … Continue reading How to Create a Deeper Relationship with Your Online Audience with Cliff Ravenscraft →

Freedom can best be created before you need it – leaving that choice to others will make you a commodity. The Digital Era In these fast paced, digital era, most of the things that we do has an equivalent of a software or app that makes things easier for us. It’s scary and wonderful at … Continue reading Freedom can best be created before you need it – leaving that choice to others will make you a commodity. →

Intention and Attention Train in guarding your attention. It’s the lifeblood of all of us. If we’re mindful of our attention we choose if we should feel inspired or judged by another person’s comments, behaviour or achievements. Your awareness about yourself is what makes you get energy or loose it whenever you see that carrot … Continue reading Intention and Attention →

Go Beyond your muscle failure.  Build your business and character like a personal trainer. Go Beyond yourself often towards muscle failure. That’s the only time growth happen. Power speed reading, comfort zone extending, processes, group development anything. if you find yourself succeeding most of the time take bigger steps, if not then take smaller steps … Continue reading Go Beyond your muscle failure. Build your business and character like a personal trainer. →

My weird honors your weird The bell curve has changed thanks to the internet, the connection economy and “near instant access” to most things. It’s easier than ever before to make an impact, to help people beyond the horizon. When I grew up we all tried to conform to the same norm. Marketing was loud … Continue reading My weird honours your weird →

Take your positions – Who do you want to help and why? There is a reason why the instructions tell you to put on the air mask on yourself FIRST: Before helping your kid, friend or co-worker. Without Air, you will quickly forget the long-term priorities, and you can make things worse while you’re unable … Continue reading Take your positions – Who do you want to help and why? →

Tension, Empathy & Sympathy – Responsibility from different perspectives Empathy. Seeing the perspective of others. Walking in someone else’s shoes. Dare to face the unknown of the minds of those around you. Dare to embrace that they might think you’re wrong. They might be right, and you’re not. Embracing that you’re having an impact on … Continue reading Tension, Empathy & Sympathy – Responsibility from different perspectives →

Exciting times – What’s exciting for you might not be exciting for someone else We’re living in exciting times. I’m sure every generation before me has said the same words, felt the same.  What I’m thinking on right now specifically is the instant auto feedback we’ve got available for becoming better. Live feedback in our … Continue reading Exciting times – What’s exciting for you might not be exciting for someone else →

Why are you doing this? Why High Standards help you – Why Commitment increase attention   Quite often I get the question “why do you do this?” Some talk about “why the commitment on consistency” others “why for free when you have people who are thankful for the opportunity to  pay you for your knowledge … Continue reading Why are you doing this? Why High Standards help you – Why Commitment increase attention →

Throughput thoughts Some thoughts on intention and results, and the passage required to archive it. This is high and low, tech and people. I guess some people would call it random ramblings. Some thoughts on email/phone/video/actual meeting Phone thumbs throughput and making replies easy and effective. Delegation, effect and not being superman. Or that if … Continue reading Throughput thoughts →

Full Contact play with your Anti-thesis Get the habit of embracing an anti-thesis to your belief every now and then to deepen your learning on your topic, or that it’s time to leave while “on top” Perhaps get together over dinner with some mastermind friends on a yearly basis and ask everyone to bring a … Continue reading Full Contact play with your Anti-thesis →

Right now forces are gathering to make you a commodity. It already happened all around you. Uber, Spotify, Travel-agents etc. The middleman is cut out and a proxy service is censoring out everything that doesn’t adapt. In the consultant nice, we have consultant brokers, offshore resources and a lot of things helping clients get their … Continue reading thoughts on becomming a commodity and choosing your position →

When presenting a week back I got the question by a person in the audience on any advice in becoming awarded by eWork just like I did. (ework awarded me Consultant of year 2013) My reply was a recommendation to not chase awards. Instead focus on working towards excellence at your chosen trade. Focus on … Continue reading Race don’t chase – some thoughts on awards →

Mind your attitude – let go of labels I believe you, me and most of us need to constantly remind yourself before the mindset becomes the new normal for us, the new natural. When you start to take action your mind will resist, will encourage you in all sorts of ways to step aside, to … Continue reading Mind your attitude – let go of labels →

The Power of a Delta.txt file of how things should and could be When you’re starting new, for example at a new site, new employer or anything you’re in a golden situation to see the patterns in the workplace with a fresh eye. Perhaps you’re noting that everyone is walking across the river to collect … Continue reading The Power of a Delta.txt file of how things should and could be →

Simple – not easy   Simple and Easy is not the same ting yet I find that over the years most people confuse the too, sometimes myself included. We want easy yet we already know the recipe for what we want is simple. Rarely is it as easy as an instant success because if that … Continue reading Simple – not easy →

Gratefulness & Respect – your choice of words matter Gratefulness serves you in so many ways beyond here and now. Let is invigor you with energy and joy that benefits others too. Let it give you a forward motion for what you have not yet accomplished but will be done with before today is done. … Continue reading Gratefulness & Respect – your choice of words matter →

  You don’t need a big chunk of time to start. Are you sure you’re not waiting and wasting valuable time investments. In essence, are you stuck in the prelude to your own life? Its easy that Works becomes the main chapters in our book, when in reality you CAN build something small steps by … Continue reading Your Life is not a prologue, don’t wait, the time is now →

Digital Connections, and the power of the system and our emotions of feeling connected. Right now we’re attention flooded. Many use systems to keep up with friends. We no longer use DIRECT-CONNECTION to most things we depend on today. Despite we know that face-to-face meeting delivers the most metadata in our discussion, with a loss … Continue reading Digital Connections, and the power of the system and our emotions of feeling connected. →

There is a message for you everywhere. If you’re looking for it you’ll always find a lesson, anywhere, at all times, from everyone   If you’re actively looking for it, I also believe people around you will bloom in areas unexpected. Helping both you and them connect better AND get more done. Are you listening?

You become the company you keep Another way of saying it is “you are the average of the X people you spend the most time with.” I believe WHO you invest the most of your time with is the most important decision of your life. In the right company most things seem easy. Often you … Continue reading You become the company you keep →

Time is your most precious investment – become aware   Where you invest your time, and furthermore WHO you invest your time with is the most important decision in your life. It affects everything. The impact you will have on this world, your health and achievements just to name a few. Life if full of … Continue reading time is your most precious investment – become aware →

Listen for what is not said + John Lee Dumas Entrepreneurs on Fire second Kickstarter How often do you actively listen for what is NOT being said? Focus on what the data is saying, not the highest talker Focus on what the body is doing, instead of the head is saying Focus on your intended … Continue reading Listen for what is not said + John Lee Dumas Entrepreneurs on Fire second Kickstarter →

We’re in an Age of Instant Access and Connection Analytics – food for thoughts Instant Access to so many things today, and yet more is coming every day. How does that affect relationship building and the power to help more people get what they want? Today most of us live in a connection economics economy. … Continue reading Age of Instant Access and Connection Analytics →

 Meta-Memory, Meta-Me – Self-confusion and Clarity,  Psychosynthesis & Imagery Exercises   Some say our Memory is “us”, that we are the core of what we remember. Your achievements, friends who has always been there for you and the people, activities and things you love. Study after study prove we can’t trust our memory. Yet most … Continue reading Meta-Memory, Meta-Me – Self-confusion and Clarity, Psychosynthesis & Imagery Exercises →

It’s wonderful living in the world of Instant Access like we’re doing right now. And Virtual Reality can really help build a connection to the individuals around us , but we also have to remember to build live connections around us. If we don’t really “need” anyone since we get everything delivered tailored to us … Continue reading Age of Access, Virtual Reality and Digital_Twins →

Nobody owes you is a mindset that often helps us build better relationships. Owning how we respond and act to feelings that emerge within us will change your life trajectory more than anything. Complaining about someone else getting a promotion that you long for won’t make your own results any better. Ask yourself instead if … Continue reading Nobody owes you is a mindset that often helps us build better relationships →

Connection is a feeling – Christmas and other Rare activities   Most often its thru feeling we connect to people. And what we connect to in a story is most often individually. I’ve had people come up to me after a talk saying they appreciated my show of vulnerability, others from the exact same words … Continue reading Connection is a feeling – Christmas and other Rare activities →

Talking about performance to make behaviours more effective with authenticity and without acting   Performance, when we’re taking on an act we are really distancing ourselves from people. It’s the total opposite from connecting with people. Yet, during the 20+ years I’ve attended leadership classes there’s always some that wants the quick-check list as if … Continue reading Talking about performance, behaviours and effect →

Gratitude for others no? Benefits of making it easy for others to say no. Embracing reality for a new, more effective way   I deeply believe in focusing on the one thing until success (quote from my friend John Lee Dumas) and I’ve had multiple casts about the power of saying no. Say no, guarding … Continue reading Gratitude for others no? Benefits of making it easy for others to say no. →

VR – Virtual Reality means business of Generosity, might even help move away from Self-centredness I believe the most common way to major success is helping others. Letting go of that self-centredness that envelop us all when we are in deep stress for example. And I’m sure you feel that it’s not distributed equally around … Continue reading Virtual Reality means business of Generosity, might even help move away from Self-centredness →

Virtual Reality effects on Business and relationship building Corporations invests enormous amounts of “could have been results” into meetings, and most of those are over the phone, web conferences and other semi-virtual ways to connect. Globalisations have increased this way of working even more. At the same time, most of us are aware of the … Continue reading Virtual Reality effects on Business and relationship building →

Help-Others and Self-Help I often think about how come the amount of teachings around “Helping Others” is not anything near the amount of exposure of people, method and processes to “Self-Help”. When I looked at Categories in two different Quote-Sites I found 300 “Helping Others” Quotes and 4000 for “Self-Help”. Likewise when I shopped digital … Continue reading Help-Others and Self-Help →

Your way is understandable   Sometimes it feels hard to accept the method of path taken by someone else. Accept their way, their reasoning. Doesn’t mean you have to accept the results OR hurts or thinks you see in your perspective along their way, along their path, along your projection of their path. That’s the … Continue reading Your way is understandable →

Attention Waste – Is Your Time Investments and efforts making a difference for the better? The most brilliant minds of our era invests their time and attention in creating better and better clickbait to get everyone else to invest time and attention “ON” their clickbait and the tracking trail it generates in pursue of revenue. … Continue reading Attention Waste – Is Your Time Investments and efforts making a difference for the better? →

Information wants to be free That is one of the “Alternatives” to the info, status or just Social talk you are having right now.   Another way of seeing it is, consider this the “alternative cost” in what you COULD have compared to what you might be getting right now.   Notice the difference when … Continue reading Information wants to be free →

Relationship Power and other Powers Relationship Power. Role Power. Authority Power. Situational powers. Accidental powers. Temporary powers. Don’t let unawareness put other in powerful situations for you. Don’t forget that there is most often a COST for you when using a power. For example if you forget that it’s your responsibility to ensure you have … Continue reading Relationship Power and other Powers →

Speed determines the value of almost EVERYTHING value, and every connection Everything has a game window, everyone you talk or don’t talk to. Everything you do or don’t do. Time to Market. Start backwards from when its needed, not from when its “possible” to start. Learning to speak before or after a visiting a country … Continue reading Speed determines the value of almost EVERYTHING value, and every connection →

Turning Visible – creating trust A small talk on how sometimes trying to hide something makes a crater for all to see, making it harder to see who we really are beyond it. sometimes helping too much or too little makes us less visible, Making it harder to connect to the work that matters. Making … Continue reading Turning Visible – creating trust →

Seek to invest most of your time with Grateful Action takers   You’re really the average of the five people you spend the most time. Who you spend your time with is one of the most important decisions to keep up with in your life. Your time is the only resouce you cant get more … Continue reading Seek to invest most of your time with Grateful Action takers →

Embraceing your Potential consists of a lot of things, below is just a few of them. I personally dont think it matters where you start though, as long as you start thinking about it, start acting to become it. This cast is dedicated to exploring your potential from these angles.   Imagination is often the … Continue reading Embraceing your Potential →

Own your results – own your communication Manager-tools.com often talk about “communication is what the listener does”. So what does this mean for you? For me it means that if I dont get the behaviour or effect I want there is NO point in ever saying “I’ve told you before”. If I’m not getting what … Continue reading Own your results – own your communication →

Refueling others Where does your fuel and generator of energy align with those around you? What does those around you get fuel from and how can you help them get more of it without it costing others? is that energy constantly renewing or does it drain out for you or those around you?

What fuels you? What fuels those around you? Most often we do things, without really thinking, about what gives us fuel. Where in this activity does my energy really come from? If it comes at all? It’s easy to think we get energy from an activity when we’re really just appreciating the feeling after compliments, … Continue reading What fuels you? What fuels those around you? →

Delayed Reward, Alternative Costs – Build your relationships for the long run if you seek to maximize what you get out of someone thats rarely relationship-building. thats transactions and might work in the short run but rarely in the long run. (this isnt in the cast but when I’m writing this I’m thinking of “why … Continue reading Delayed Reward, Alternative Costs – Build your relationships for the long run →

Listen to people but trust the numbers – Ensure you measure the right thing for others, not just whats easy to measure or makes you look good. Continous measurement makes you look trustworthy. Its easier to trust a currently bad number when you know you can trust the good ones too. Than seeing a good … Continue reading Listen to people but trust the numbers →

Recruiting – when to say no, NO and when to say yes.   A quick cast about three thoughts on recruiting. I personally find this worth thinking about for recruiters AND anyone that wants more out of work. And I’m not talking just about more results out of work. Just my ideas – the important … Continue reading Recruiting – when to say no, NO and when to say yes →

it’s not about you Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that everything isn’t about me. Sometimes people around you behave in ways that makes things difficult for you. Making it hard for you to “imagine positive intent” when you see the effect if has on your results. People didn’t start their activity aiming to ruin … Continue reading it’s not about you – focus on the behaviour you can change not the stuff you cant →

Credentials Decay, Results last longer. Change is the only constant In todays modern world credentials isn’t what it used to be so its more important than ever to show your results. To quickly help others see what results you can help them archive by listing your accomplishments AND your ability to listen hard and change … Continue reading Credentials Decay, Results last longer. Change is the only constant →

Give first individually, Listen first  – Relationship power comes later Schedule five minutes every day to just get to know the people around you. Listen hard to what they value and make a note of sharing anything you think might help them, might help them archive their dreams, their family.  Small or big.

Listening beyond what isn’t being said The most important thing in communication is listening for what isn’t being said according to Peter Drucker. Listen for the silence We all carry invisible baggage into our meetings. Those can both make it harder and easier to connect to someone. Words in the present conversations can take a … Continue reading Listening beyond what isn’t being said →

Commitment , Control &  Contribution and the speed of Trust Most of us was trained in compliance as a kid for countless of hours. Hours that could have been invested into training us to instead in seeking ways to contribute in our own unique way to help others and ourselves. Many of us has also … Continue reading Commitment , Control & Contribution and the speed of Trust →