Relationship Power at work
Nobody owes you is a mindset that often helps us build better relationships. Owning how we respond and act to feelings that emerge within us will change your life trajectory more than anything. Complaining about someone else getting a promotion that you long for won’t make your own results any better. Ask yourself instead if … Continue reading Nobody owes you is a mindset that often helps us build better relationships

Connection is a feeling – Christmas and other Rare activities   Most often its thru feeling we connect to people. And what we connect to in a story is most often individually. I’ve had people come up to me after a talk saying they appreciated my show of vulnerability, others from the exact same words … Continue reading Connection is a feeling – Christmas and other Rare activities

Talking about performance to make behaviours more effective with authenticity and without acting   Performance, when we’re taking on an act we are really distancing ourselves from people. It’s the total opposite from connecting with people. Yet, during the 20+ years I’ve attended leadership classes there’s always some that wants the quick-check list as if … Continue reading Talking about performance, behaviours and effect

Gratitude for others no? Benefits of making it easy for others to say no. Embracing reality for a new, more effective way   I deeply believe in focusing on the one thing until success (quote from my friend John Lee Dumas) and I’ve had multiple casts about the power of saying no. Say no, guarding … Continue reading Gratitude for others no? Benefits of making it easy for others to say no.

VR – Virtual Reality means business of Generosity, might even help move away from Self-centredness I believe the most common way to major success is helping others. Letting go of that self-centredness that envelop us all when we are in deep stress for example. And I’m sure you feel that it’s not distributed equally around … Continue reading Virtual Reality means business of Generosity, might even help move away from Self-centredness

Virtual Reality effects on Business and relationship building Corporations invests enormous amounts of “could have been results” into meetings, and most of those are over the phone, web conferences and other semi-virtual ways to connect. Globalisations have increased this way of working even more. At the same time, most of us are aware of the … Continue reading Virtual Reality effects on Business and relationship building

Help-Others and Self-Help I often think about how come the amount of teachings around “Helping Others” is not anything near the amount of exposure of people, method and processes to “Self-Help”. When I looked at Categories in two different Quote-Sites I found 300 “Helping Others” Quotes and 4000 for “Self-Help”. Likewise when I shopped digital … Continue reading Help-Others and Self-Help
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Your way is understandable   Sometimes it feels hard to accept the method of path taken by someone else. Accept their way, their reasoning. Doesn’t mean you have to accept the results OR hurts or thinks you see in your perspective along their way, along their path, along your projection of their path. That’s the … Continue reading Your way is understandable

Attention Waste – Is Your Time Investments and efforts making a difference for the better? The most brilliant minds of our era invests their time and attention in creating better and better clickbait to get everyone else to invest time and attention “ON” their clickbait and the tracking trail it generates in pursue of revenue. … Continue reading Attention Waste – Is Your Time Investments and efforts making a difference for the better?

Information wants to be free That is one of the “Alternatives” to the info, status or just Social talk you are having right now.   Another way of seeing it is, consider this the “alternative cost” in what you COULD have compared to what you might be getting right now.   Notice the difference when … Continue reading Information wants to be free

Relationship Power and other Powers Relationship Power. Role Power. Authority Power. Situational powers. Accidental powers. Temporary powers. Don’t let unawareness put other in powerful situations for you. Don’t forget that there is most often a COST for you when using a power. For example if you forget that it’s your responsibility to ensure you have … Continue reading Relationship Power and other Powers
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Speed determines the value of almost EVERYTHING value, and every connection Everything has a game window, everyone you talk or don’t talk to. Everything you do or don’t do. Time to Market. Start backwards from when its needed, not from when its “possible” to start. Learning to speak before or after a visiting a country … Continue reading Speed determines the value of almost EVERYTHING value, and every connection
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Turning Visible – creating trust A small talk on how sometimes trying to hide something makes a crater for all to see, making it harder to see who we really are beyond it. sometimes helping too much or too little makes us less visible, Making it harder to connect to the work that matters. Making … Continue reading Turning Visible – creating trust
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Seek to invest most of your time with Grateful Action takers   You’re really the average of the five people you spend the most time. Who you spend your time with is one of the most important decisions to keep up with in your life. Your time is the only resouce you cant get more … Continue reading Seek to invest most of your time with Grateful Action takers
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Embraceing your Potential consists of a lot of things, below is just a few of them. I personally dont think it matters where you start though, as long as you start thinking about it, start acting to become it. This cast is dedicated to exploring your potential from these angles.   Imagination is often the … Continue reading Embraceing your Potential
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Own your results – own your communication Manager-tools.com often talk about “communication is what the listener does”. So what does this mean for you? For me it means that if I dont get the behaviour or effect I want there is NO point in ever saying “I’ve told you before”. If I’m not getting what … Continue reading Own your results – own your communication

Refueling others Where does your fuel and generator of energy align with those around you? What does those around you get fuel from and how can you help them get more of it without it costing others? is that energy constantly renewing or does it drain out for you or those around you?
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What fuels you? What fuels those around you? Most often we do things, without really thinking, about what gives us fuel. Where in this activity does my energy really come from? If it comes at all? It’s easy to think we get energy from an activity when we’re really just appreciating the feeling after compliments, … Continue reading What fuels you? What fuels those around you?
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Delayed Reward, Alternative Costs – Build your relationships for the long run if you seek to maximize what you get out of someone thats rarely relationship-building. thats transactions and might work in the short run but rarely in the long run. (this isnt in the cast but when I’m writing this I’m thinking of “why … Continue reading Delayed Reward, Alternative Costs – Build your relationships for the long run

Listen to people but trust the numbers – Ensure you measure the right thing for others, not just whats easy to measure or makes you look good. Continous measurement makes you look trustworthy. Its easier to trust a currently bad number when you know you can trust the good ones too. Than seeing a good … Continue reading Listen to people but trust the numbers

Recruiting – when to say no, NO and when to say yes.   A quick cast about three thoughts on recruiting. I personally find this worth thinking about for recruiters AND anyone that wants more out of work. And I’m not talking just about more results out of work. Just my ideas – the important … Continue reading Recruiting – when to say no, NO and when to say yes

it’s not about you Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that everything isn’t about me. Sometimes people around you behave in ways that makes things difficult for you. Making it hard for you to “imagine positive intent” when you see the effect if has on your results. People didn’t start their activity aiming to ruin … Continue reading it’s not about you – focus on the behaviour you can change not the stuff you cant

Credentials Decay, Results last longer. Change is the only constant In todays modern world credentials isn’t what it used to be so its more important than ever to show your results. To quickly help others see what results you can help them archive by listing your accomplishments AND your ability to listen hard and change … Continue reading Credentials Decay, Results last longer. Change is the only constant
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Give first individually, Listen first  – Relationship power comes later Schedule five minutes every day to just get to know the people around you. Listen hard to what they value and make a note of sharing anything you think might help them, might help them archive their dreams, their family.  Small or big.

Listening beyond what isn’t being said The most important thing in communication is listening for what isn’t being said according to Peter Drucker. Listen for the silence We all carry invisible baggage into our meetings. Those can both make it harder and easier to connect to someone. Words in the present conversations can take a … Continue reading Listening beyond what isn’t being said
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Commitment , Control &  Contribution and the speed of Trust Most of us was trained in compliance as a kid for countless of hours. Hours that could have been invested into training us to instead in seeking ways to contribute in our own unique way to help others and ourselves. Many of us has also … Continue reading Commitment , Control & Contribution and the speed of Trust

Envy and gratitude Envy is a human emotion that is easy to fall prey to. It can be harnessed to make you do  more, make you archive move but my experience it’s one of the more common paths to the dark side (sounds like I’m quoting Start Wars doesnt it?) Envy can easily cause splinters … Continue reading Envy and gratitude
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What work really matters when you strip everything else away? What will live beyond you? This cast is about your inner question of what what is important to you beyond all that urgency, all that noise? its a powerful question and only you hold the answer
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Grit and Generosity I really believe Generosity is a great compass towards your success. Ask yourself where in your life, where you invest hard work in creating things, You still don’t you mind others carbon copy your work and using it to help other people. Of course we have to set boundaries to our time … Continue reading Grit and Generosity
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Let Go – one way to become free to invite the new What and where is your safe haven? Who would you invite there and why? How can you get more of that and share that with others?

Most things that matter to use on a deeper level lies beyond our own comfort zone. Accept your discomfort, and the feelings from it. Its OK. We all experience that. Then take a step to dare to look and act beyond those feelings and eventually that which was beyond you, is now your new normal.
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If your job and results where a fantasy story. Would you do anything differently? – if so why, where and for whom?   Sometimes playing with our mind is a great way to open up thoughts that might linger beyond what we logically can access. Sometimes we mentally shield ourselves for allowing thinking certain thoughts … Continue reading if your job and results where a fantasy story – Would you do anything differently? – if so why, where and for whom?

Mirrors and actions beyond Reflection Your actions and attitude to others speak way more about you than your mirror’s reflection.   Its worth reflecting over that reflection. Sometimes I think most of us often try to catch a glimpse of ourselves in the mirror – wondering what others think of our appearance. Yet at the … Continue reading Mirrors and actions beyond Reflection
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Sometimes you encounter the dark side of helping people. Sometimes you invest your generosity into people who does the opposite back. How do you deal with it?
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Breathing – Cure of Stress and giver of Focus, Clarity and shape Breathing is a great cure for stress. Take four deep breaths and your worldview might change. Of course it won’t change the world. But your new mindset, clarity and actions on the new insight might. It might help you see things more clearly. … Continue reading Breathing – Cure of Stress and giver of Focus, Clarity and shape

Projecting yourself onto other people – beyond the effect you probably want Take a minute to think about your own patters. What do you usually notice about the world? What does that tell you about yourself and your values?   How would you like it to be? How can you help others change things that … Continue reading Projecting yourself onto other people – beyond the effect you probably want

Opportunity Stress We live in a world of abundance. You can do so much. One person can change (parts of) the world. This is a perspective of Alternative Cost, and just some thoughts on stress and fear of uncontrollability from the great book The Unthinkable – who survives when disaster strikes and why www.amazon.com/Unthinkable-survives-when-disaster-strikes-ebook/dp/B0031RS9NY   … Continue reading Opportunity Stress
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Criticism is futile in driving change I’m re listening to “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie – I do that every 5th year or so. A great way to remind myself – and to pick up thing I wasn’t ready to notice a perspective on earlier in my life. I very … Continue reading Criticism is futile in driving change
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Life can be unexpected short – Show gratitude while you can. Life is change. People you take for granted might not be near you tomorrow. Due to health, change of job, friends moving out of town or anything might happen. Embrace reality while you have it. Take care of your body. Reality is brutal. Life … Continue reading Life can be unexpected short – Show gratitude while you can
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I am defined by my fears and strengths – by not limited to neither I think both our strengths AND your fears easily puts us in corners that we are not aware off. Embrace our fears – don’t try to push it away. likewise aim for not trying to be limited by it. Easier said … Continue reading I am defined by my fears and strengths – by not limited to neither

I (Ric) interviews John Lee Dumas from EntrepreneurOnFire on how to connect to raving fans, Leadership and getting results. We talked about “if you want to BE, DO!” and its ok not to be great when you start, if you keep doing, you will become better. We also talked some about generosity + the power … Continue reading interview with John Lee Dumas EntrepreneurOnFire
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Learn to Learn new things – climbing example When learning new things – its easy to forget how much more power someone who is skilled can have than a beginner. its so easy to cling to what you think is effective instead of daring to try embracing the bigger way. Look for what is working … Continue reading Learn to Learn new things – climbing example
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Embrace tension, potential strength, Life and the longbow idea of requirements of change   Just some ramblings about comparing life to a longbow, tension to stress. all stress being inner stress. About becomming aware if that tension is healthy and when you should apply it, and when the tension is really robbing you and others … Continue reading Embrace tension, potential strength, Life and the longbow idea of requirements of change

Communicate on the level they want AND the level you need for effect. DiSC is one way to become more aware of your communication strengths and how they are perceived by others. And how you can adapt your style to those you talk to for a way better effect

Celebrating 100 episodes I’m giving away 3×10 Leadership Coaching Sessions + 30 kindle books and talking about Be Generous & Walk Your Talk. ..and some “be kind to yourself” when starting to drive change. it’s tough in the beginning but it gets easier as we keep showing up to do the work.   100 episodes already? … Continue reading 100 episodes – giving away 3×10 Leadership Coaching Sessions + 30 kindle books – Be Generous & Walk Your Talk

Stuck is just most often just a mindset “From where I am now I can’t see my way forward” – this talk is about why I love climbing and how much benefit I have had from my mindsets trained when climbing – in both relationship building as well in business Leaving a safe foothold always … Continue reading Stuck is just most often just a mindset

Neutral or criticize and its potential cost and rewards Some thoughts of the potential in all the people you meet and all the things they may create – and what your actions can behaviour can create or prevent from appearing if you are not thinking about it

The Power of Enthusiasm for others Enthusiasm is amazing.   It’s a great way to connect to other people. It’s a great source of insight and awareness. It’s a great fun way to be curious and take action. And it’s a great way to start most things.   Connect to your own Enthusiasm first – … Continue reading The Power of Enthusiasm for others Enthusiasm is amazing.

Selfishly Generous A lot of studies show that generosity really pays of in health. long life. opportunities. The list is long. What would make a difference for you? in summary: here is some encouragement for you to help others This cast is yet again about being generous to those around you, and for all kinds … Continue reading Selfishly Generous
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Tap into the larger conversation.   The one in yourself, the one in your organisation and the ones going on by your customers. Tap into that, align with it and you will find both a great connection and great energy for taking initiative for the better. For you and those around you. Listen for it … Continue reading Tap into the larger conversation
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Listening Brands, Mini-Audience – always adapt your message to the individual to get the effect you want. The Power of Data might be shining most clearing when it comes to Marketing but its heading into HR and alot of other departments as well. Constant A/B testing will prove so many thesis and anti-thesis wrong (or … Continue reading Listening Brands: How Data is Rewriting the Rules of Branding
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When to Create Commitment first – Compliance second Podcast Episode #93 Don’t limit yourself to get compliance from people. It might feel like you are connecting around compliance . It might feel secure and easy but you are losing out of what may be. For both yourself and for them. For both current and future … Continue reading When to Create Commitment first – Compliance second

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